Your child will learn about sex.
The question is who teaches them.
A parent's guide to talking with children about sexuality, pornography, and healthy intimacy — grounded in attachment science and faith.
Buy the Book Now →If you've ever stood at that door - heart racing, not sure what to say - this book was written for you.
Most parents aren't waiting because they don't care. They're waiting because no one ever showed them how. Their own parents were silent. Their faith community avoided it. And now the world is filling that silence faster than they can imagine.
This is your invitation to step in first.
WHAT YOU'LL GET
Everything you need to start the conversation - and keep having it
The full book (82 pages)
Ten chapters of practical, research-backed guidance written for real parents, not academics
Age-by-age conversation guides
Exact language for ages 4-7, 8-11, and 12+ so you always know what to say
THIS IS FOR YOU IF...
You want to be the first voice your child hears on sexuality not the internet
You grew up with silence or shame around this topic and want to break that cycle
You hold faith values and want guidance that honors them without fear-based teaching
You've had one awkward conversation and aren't sure how to keep going
You're a therapist or educator who works with parents and wants a resource to recommend
THE PATH FORWARD
This is just the beginning
The book and course give you the foundation. For parents who want to go deeper, here's what's available:
Book + Course Bundle
Start here - everything you need to begin
Live Parent Workshop
Small-group coaching with Dan - coming soon
1:1 Clinical Support
Work directly with AFI clinicians
WHAT PARENTS SAY
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Dan Oakes, MEd, LPC, CSAT
Founder, Arizona Family Institute - Mesa, Arizona
Dan has spent 35+ years working with individuals, couples, and families navigating addiction, betrayal, and relational disconnection. He's a certified sex addiction therapist, attachment-oriented clinician, and frequent conference presenter - and a father of five who has learned most of what matters from the work of showing up at home. His clinical approach blends current neuroscience with a deep respect for faith, family, and the ordinary courage it takes to parent well.
Frequently Asked Question
My child is only 5. Is this too early?
What exactly is the companion course?
What if I'm a therapist who wants to use this with clients?
Is this only for religious families?
Your child needs you in this conversation. You don't have to be perfect - just present.
Silence leaves the world to fill the gap. This is how you fill it first - with love, clarity, and the confidence that comes from actually being prepared.
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