SHIFT - Out of Betrayal
3-Day Intensive for Men: Overcoming Deceptive Sexuality and Healing Betrayal by SHIFTing out of Shame and Harm, and Building Integrity, Fidelity, and Trust
Using the Deceptive Sexuality and Trauma (DST) framework developed by Dr. Minwalla.
THERE IS HOPE
Using the Deceptive Sexuality and Trauma (DST) framework developed by Omar Minwalla, this intensive helps you:
- Day 1: Illuminate your understanding of the Deceptive Sexuality Model
- Day 2: Apply the model by practicing transparency, clarity, and truth.
- Day 3: Transform and SHIFT your Defensiveness to Empathy and Compassion.
The Deceptive Sexuality and Trauma Model
A framework for the work that actually needs to happen
For decades, the standard story about sexual betrayal in marriage was that one partner had a behavior problem to fix and the other had the harder job of forgiving. That story missed something. It missed her.
The Deceptive Sexuality and Trauma Model, developed by Dr. Omar Minwalla over more than twenty years of clinical work, names what was missing. It treats deceptive sexuality as a two-part problem — the compulsive behavior, and the patterns of integrity violation, gaslighting, and relational harm that surround it. And it takes seriously what happens to the partner who has been living inside that hidden reality without knowing it. That experience has a clinical name now: Deceptive Sexuality Trauma. It has phases. It has injuries. It has a shape that can be seen and worked with.
How we use this model at Arizona Family Institute
Our team has been trained directly by Dr. Minwalla — not through a weekend workshop, but through ongoing clinical mentorship and supervision. That training shapes how we practice every day.
We hold a few things firmly.
- Reconciliation without reality is a second wound, so the work begins with seeing clearly — on both sides.
- Everyone involved deserves integrity and the opportunity to find a safe space for healing integrity and change.
- The marriage, the relationship and their repair is treated as a third entity that needs safety and healing.
If you have found your way to this page, we are honored you are here.
ENROLL NOWYour Intensive Facilitators
With over 50 years of combined experience, Dan, Jeni, and Mark are experts in helping and healing from deceptive sexuality.
Dan Oakes MEd LPC
Jenni Steele LPC
Mark Bell LMFT
Intensive Details
SHIFT - Out of Betrayal
3-Day Intensive for Men: Breaking Patterns, Building Integrity
Where?
The Arizona Family Institute: 2500 S. Power Rd. Suite 120, Mesa Arizona 85209
When?
July 16-18, 2026:
We will begin at 8 AM on Thursday, the 16th, and end by 2:00 PM on Saturday, the 18th.
Who?
Men who struggle to heal their deceptive sexuality and heal their wives.
3 Day Intensive Cost
$4500
Fill out this form to register and get a consultation call.
What makes the SHIFT program different?
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SHIFT helps heal all who have been harmed.
SHIFT is the fist in-person intensive that utilizes the Minwalla Model
SHIFT is both an educational experience and an emotionally moving experience.
Location of the Training
The training will occur at the Arizona Family Institute office. 2500 South Power Rd. Suite 120 Mesa, AZ 85209.